Life Moments

March 29, 2013

There are moments in life that catch you by surprise and can lead you in opposite directions of where you want to go. You alone hold the power to choose the direction you want to take but sometimes you will make a mistake.Those mistakes are sometimes fixable and others not so much. Regardless of the outcome you must learn to live with such decisions and accept them, for you made them. It’s not always easy but, then again, neither is life. Sad, happy, mad, angry, excited, frustrated and a whole list of other feelings are all part of what makes us human. Can you imagine never hurting? how would you know that something was worth keeping or having if you didn’t realized how much it hurt to lose it/them? Now imagine the opposite, being sad all the time, how would you know that you enjoy something or the company of someone? no matter the feeling, embrace it because it reminds you that you’re alive and that you will indeed survive. I recently made a huge blunder and now must live with the consequences. I had someone who made me happy,who took care of me, who enjoyed the same things i did and who was, above all, great with my daughter. Things got too serious too quickly and I got scared. I pushed her away and made excuse after excuse to justify me breaking the relationship. I haven’t been accustomed to a good thing in a long time and the minute it came i had to run. At the time I was ok with the decision and felt like it was the right one but, as time has passed, I have come to realize that I fucked up. Yea not knowing the future is scary and can make you hesitate but is it worth your present? In my case it wasn’t. if I could go back I would have never ran away and instead i would relay my thoughts to her. I made the attempt to try and reach out to her but I think I hurt her too much and broke her trust. I don’t blame anyone but myself and although it hurts, it has been a learning experience. I must learn to embrace the present again and not look at the past or worry about the future because those are aspects of life that you cannot truly control. You must learn from every experience you have in life, whether good or bad. If you don’t learn then you will never grow as a person and if you don’t grow you will live in a bubble and, in turn, not truly live at all. Take life day by day and don’t let the things you cant control, influence your decisions. We only have certain time on this planet and in this life so you must LIVE. Pick yourself up, let time heal your heart, and never stop living.

Uncertain

January 28, 2013

I’ve had two days to think about my life, where it’s at and where it’s going. I still have much to figure out but I know one thing, you. I get the feeling that letting you go means letting something special slip away. I’ve made excuse after excuse as to why we can’t or shouldn’t be together but it’s hard to reason with life when life is unpredictable. I’m definitely a planner and like to be sure of what I’m going to do. I have the fault of giving the right advice but never taking it. I know that I should just live and that life will sort everything out but the thought is scary. I can’t promise that I won’t have doubts but I can tell you that’ll ill do what I can to make things work. At 26 I still have time to do what I want and I have the patience to wait for what is worth waiting for. I know I’ve put you through a lot and, perhaps, played with your emotions but it was not my intent. I understand if you need time or it’s too far gone but know that I had to make my peace and let you know how I feel. Regardless of what happens, know that I wish you the best because you are a beautiful and amazing person, smile.

Dear women of the dating world

June 11, 2012

In my time dating and just meeting women, I have found that the best and easiest way to meet someone is by being yourself. This may sound easier than it is and perhaps sound cliche but it is true. I’ve found that many women, and men, try and become what they think their date wants them to be. At first this may be nice or even flattering, for the person you’re dating, but it gets old quick. Sure it’s nice to do things that your date likes but don’t fake being happy out doing it all the time and feel free to invite him into activities you like. A relationship is a two way street and must be treated as such, if not, it’s not the right one. Now women, a man Iike’s a woman who likes to have fun but not one who can’t handle herself in public. A drink or 3 are fine but know your limit. If you’re being too loud or obnoxious, then perhaps you’ve had one too many. Although men like outgoing and classy, in public, they do enjoy a wild, crazy girl at home. Not all the time, of course, but it definitely keeps things interesting. Now, if you’re truly looking for love, you cannot be closed minded. Yes, looks get you interested, but may fade away quick with bad conversation or a bad personality. Get to know a man, hell even go on a blind date, but keep your heart open to new people. Being shallow will only take you so far and you may pass up “the one” by being this way. Having things in common is great and helps break the ice but also have things that are different so that you may try them together and build a deeper connection. Yes, we all have a type, but it is sometimes the one totally opposite, that is the most right for you. Love doesn’t come in a certain color, shape, size, or any other tangible characteristic, often times love is felt instantly after meeting someone. Society says that we should wait certain dates before saying you like each other and such but, sometimes, it’s just right. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and remember, if it doesn’t work out, the right person is still out there waiting for you. Don’t rush and when the timing is right, you’ll find each other.

Help spread the als word

February 23, 2012

For a chance to win these designer persol sunglasses, http://www.persol.com/usa/collections/sun/classics/ PO2747S/95-48 register and vote for the packrats http://patients.aan.com/index.cfm?axon=users%3Asignup Its a video my friend amy paffrath made to honor her dad and to bring awareness. If her video gets the most votes and wins then we’ll select a random voter and follower. So follow her on twitter @amypaffrath and go vote

People in your life

January 31, 2012

Those that know me know that I have seen my dad twice since my mom, sister and I came to the US in 1994. We left because my parents had problems and my mother wanted a better life for us. I’ve gone back to mexico and seen my dad twice since and not for at least 9 years. Recently he called and we’ve kept somewhat in touch. I didn’t know why but tonight I found out that he’s sick. I don’t know what’s wrong with him or if its serious, but I do know that he’s a huge part of who I am. He taught me many things in the 8 years he was able to raise me, and more so the last months that he knew we were leaving. He tried to teach me about god but he also taught me about life and doing what is right. He taught me that it isn’t good to hold grudges and that forgiving is something I should do. He taught me to be strong and to push through adversity and eventually things work out. Perhaps he reached out in order to make peace in fear of his illness being serious, but he has nothing to apologize for. He never abandoned us and time changed us all and we faded. I’ve never thanked him for all the lessons that still stick with me, nor told him that despite all that’s happened, I love him and hold him dearly. Im hoping its nothing serious and everything turns out right but if it doesn’t I just want you to know, thank you, I am a better man for knowing you.

Our relevance

November 23, 2011

So lately we’ve had nothing but clear skies at night and it makes me pensive. Most people are so caught up on minuscule things in life and really miss the greatness of life. I challenge you to take a trip away from the lights and just look up into a clear night sky. You will get goosebumps and probably scared once it hits you. In the grand scheme of things, we are irrelevant. We live on a planet that’s rather small and located within our solar system. This system is a speck in our galaxy which is one of hundreds of millions if not billions. Stop worrying about little things. Stop, think and just decide to live. Love will find you at the right time and don’t let negativity control you. Shrug it off and move forward oh and always smile.

When is it ok to marry?

July 5, 2011

So say u meet a woman and she’s great. You both hit it off and she’s a perfect fit. When is it too soon to pop the question? Is it beta to know everything about a person before marrying or is it better to get to know them as you’re together?

Life

July 4, 2011

There are things that you cannot learn from books, or websites or even people. Those things you learn from life. There’s lessons that must be learned and others that get thrown at you. Take them and learn from them.take the wisdom they provide and use it to become a better person. Use what you gain to help others on their quest to a better life and in return you yourself will gain growth. Cry if you must, scream when you need to release, and laugh if the urge reaches you. You needent hide from emotions,  they make us human and remind us we are alive. Take care of yourself first and then seek out someone to share your experiences with. Stay positive and keep your eyes forward, life will happen, join it and live it.

Page is up

July 2, 2011

So I finally got 25 likes on my advice/help page so it should be more accessible and legit. So if u have a question or need an ear or advice then go here and ask. Www.facebook.com/centralcoastadvice

Kids

June 28, 2011

When you’re young you hear that kids grow up fast and you never realize how true that is until you have them. Four years ago I held my daughter in my arms for the first time. Now she’s four and getting big. It really feels like yesterday that she fell asleep on my head and that she was running around learning to talk. Parents, enjoy every second of your kids because before you know it they will be all grown up and too cool to hang with you.I love u katharine jean marin. And you’ll always be my bebes


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